'90 Day Fiancé' 's Bilal Fears Shaeeda Will 'Abandon' Him If They Have a Baby

Mar. 15, 2025

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ShaeedaandBilalare continuing their debate about having children on90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After?.

In a confessional, Bilal shared that he had an ulterior motive for the driving lesson: “Shae and I are still trying to get to an agreement about when to start to get pregnant. Later on today, the results are coming from a fertility test. Shae, she’s pretty anxious about what it means for her so I thought right now would be a great opportunity to kind of take her mind off of that.”

Unfortunately, like so many other exchanges, the lesson became contentious when Bilal gave instructions from the passenger seat that made Shaeeda snap “don’t shade my country,” and he shot back, “Don’t mess up my car.”

Shaeeda confirmed in her own confessional that she was so nervous awaiting the bloodwork results to come back — and driving did nothing to soothe her.

As the two prepared to meet their doctor, Shaeeda restated their central issue: “I am 100% ready to have children.” She trailed off after saying her husband’s name, and when he looked away and turned his entire body, she said, “This speaks for itself.”

On the phone call, the couple’s doctor asked where the two of them stand “since they talked last.” He got a mixed response.

“I think we have been trying,” Shaeeda revealed — which was news to Bilal, who sputtered, “Trying what — she … we have not been trying.”

“When we are intimate, we are using a condom, but there has been a little oopsie here and there, so the possibility of a bun being in the oven could be real,” Shaeeda said in a confessional. “I am trying not to give it too much energy so that Bilal doesn’t pay attention to it, I’m just keeping it low.”

Bilal couldn’t be less on board: “We are not trying to have any children right now. At all. Like zero percent.”

Bilal explained his fears to the doctor.

“I think a child always should bring happiness,” he told the doctor. “I also know how she is, at times, she sometimes gets emotional. It gives me a little feeling of like, will you abandon me type of thing.”

“There’s been times where you no longer say I want to be with you and stuff like that,” he continued. I meant to be real that stuff scares me too because I’ve been divorced before so I never want to go through that again let alone having a child."

Bilal added in a confessional that the thought having kids in his current dynamic with Shaeeda “kinda makes me back up. It doesn’t make me want to run to it, it makes me a little hesitant. I’m hesitant, for sure.”

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At the suggestion of their doctor, they started making a pro and con list for parenthood. The pros included unselfish love, while added stress was a big con.

Bilal added in the eventual cost of college and called Shaeeda a “germaphobe” who might not be willing to change diapers.

“I’m fearful of the fact that sometimes when there are problems that arise, you are quick to want to run for the hills,” Bilal explained, and Shaeeda admitted she has said strong things while angry.

“Saying the D-word — ‘done’ or ‘divorce’ — those are words you should never say,” said Bilal. “I’m scared of having children with the thought that you may want to up and leave one day

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90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After?airs Sundays at 8 p.m. ET on TLC and discovery+.

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