Allison Kuch Opens Up About Her 'Identity Crisis' After Husband Isaac Rochell Became an NFL Free Agent: 'Never Really Had a Sense of Home'

Mar. 15, 2025

Allison Kuch and Issac Rochell.Photo:Stefanie Keenan/GettyAllison Kuch spoke about her “identity crisis” and postpartum journey on theSunday Sports Clubpodcast on Oct. 20.Issac Rochell was with the Las Vegas Raiders until November 2023, when he became a free agent.Kuch said she “owed it to my daughter to take care” of herself.Allison Kuchrevealed she had her own “identity crisis” after her husbandIssac Rochell, former Las Vegas Raiders defensive end, became a free agent in November 2023.In the latest episode ofSunday Sports Clubon Oct. 20, Kuch, 29, opened up about her personal postpartum journey after she gave birth to her daughter Scottie Bee on Dec. 9, 2023.“I always thought that Isaac retiring from the NFL — or not being on an NFL team — would make him go through an identity crisis, but I feel like him not being on a team right now is making me have [my own] identity crisis.” she explained. “Postpartum goes hand in hand with that because, as a mom, I understand that so much of my life revolves around my daughter.““Even I feel weird talking about this because I don’t want anybody to think that, like, I have negative feelings toward my daughter,” she clarified before opening up about her postpartum journey. “It’s actually, the opposite. I’m so obsessed with my daughter, and I love being a mom, but I feel like that’s all I know right now.“Allison Kuch on the Sunday Sports Club Podcast.Sunday Sports Club Podcast/YouTubeShe went on to explain that when she was pregnant, she initially planned to give birth in Las Vegas but ended up giving birth in Orange County, Calif. instead — which only added to her postpartum struggles.“Isaac was with theLas Vegas Raiderslast year, and I was thinking I was gonna give birth in Vegas, and then I didn’t,” she said, noting her husband’s time with the team coming to an end. “So football definitely has a little bit of an impact on my postpartum experience and even more so now because we’re currently in football season.“Kuch revealed that while Rochell did stay home with her during the first part of her postpartum journey, she regretted their move to Texas during that time, especially while dealing with her"postpartum blues.““Something I feel like [with being in] the NFL — not the NFL as an organization, but football and Isaac’s experience playing football — we have never really had a sense of home,” she said.“I think even now, me being 10 months postpartum and having a little identity crisis, it makes sense because football kinda throws you into a lot of different experiences, a lot of different friend groups [especially since] I have not lived in the same place the past four years,” she added.Allison Kuch on the Sunday Sports Club Podcast.Sunday Sports Club Podcast/YouTubeFor Kuch, her personal identity crisis was rooted in not having a sense of belonging and community because their family moved so many times before.“I have an identity of being a mom, and I’ve had an identity of being a professional football player’s wife,” she said. “But where I’m kinda struggling is if we don’t have a cadence in our life right now, what is next? Like, what does tomorrow bring?“Never miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer​​, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.While Kuch said she felt like she was “floating” and looking for her purpose, she has started to “try new things” to combat her identity crisis."[I’m] finding myself as a human outside of just being a mom,” she said. “I’m so confident in the mom piece. I think I’m a great mom, and I love taking care of my daughter, but I feel like I owe it to my daughter to take care of Ally too.“At the end of the day, Kuch said she just wants to set a good example for her daughter. “I feel like I’ve been a badass, and I’ve not cared what people have thought. And now I’m the opposite,” she added. “I wanna do fun new things that I have not done, and I think that’s also something that I really haven’t been selfish over the past 7 years of following my husband around.““I’ve gotten a sense of identity outside of football because I’ve started social media, and I’ve made my own name for myself,” she continued. “But when it comes to being selfish and choosing myself, I also feel like I’ve struggled there too because I’m giving so much of myself to my husband and my daughter, and it’s like, I don’t have anything left for myself. I wanna look forward to something for, selfishly, myself.”

Allison Kuch and Issac Rochell.Photo:Stefanie Keenan/Getty

Stefanie Keenan/Getty

Allison Kuch spoke about her “identity crisis” and postpartum journey on theSunday Sports Clubpodcast on Oct. 20.Issac Rochell was with the Las Vegas Raiders until November 2023, when he became a free agent.Kuch said she “owed it to my daughter to take care” of herself.Allison Kuchrevealed she had her own “identity crisis” after her husbandIssac Rochell, former Las Vegas Raiders defensive end, became a free agent in November 2023.In the latest episode ofSunday Sports Clubon Oct. 20, Kuch, 29, opened up about her personal postpartum journey after she gave birth to her daughter Scottie Bee on Dec. 9, 2023.“I always thought that Isaac retiring from the NFL — or not being on an NFL team — would make him go through an identity crisis, but I feel like him not being on a team right now is making me have [my own] identity crisis.” she explained. “Postpartum goes hand in hand with that because, as a mom, I understand that so much of my life revolves around my daughter.““Even I feel weird talking about this because I don’t want anybody to think that, like, I have negative feelings toward my daughter,” she clarified before opening up about her postpartum journey. “It’s actually, the opposite. I’m so obsessed with my daughter, and I love being a mom, but I feel like that’s all I know right now.“Allison Kuch on the Sunday Sports Club Podcast.Sunday Sports Club Podcast/YouTubeShe went on to explain that when she was pregnant, she initially planned to give birth in Las Vegas but ended up giving birth in Orange County, Calif. instead — which only added to her postpartum struggles.“Isaac was with theLas Vegas Raiderslast year, and I was thinking I was gonna give birth in Vegas, and then I didn’t,” she said, noting her husband’s time with the team coming to an end. “So football definitely has a little bit of an impact on my postpartum experience and even more so now because we’re currently in football season.“Kuch revealed that while Rochell did stay home with her during the first part of her postpartum journey, she regretted their move to Texas during that time, especially while dealing with her"postpartum blues.““Something I feel like [with being in] the NFL — not the NFL as an organization, but football and Isaac’s experience playing football — we have never really had a sense of home,” she said.“I think even now, me being 10 months postpartum and having a little identity crisis, it makes sense because football kinda throws you into a lot of different experiences, a lot of different friend groups [especially since] I have not lived in the same place the past four years,” she added.Allison Kuch on the Sunday Sports Club Podcast.Sunday Sports Club Podcast/YouTubeFor Kuch, her personal identity crisis was rooted in not having a sense of belonging and community because their family moved so many times before.“I have an identity of being a mom, and I’ve had an identity of being a professional football player’s wife,” she said. “But where I’m kinda struggling is if we don’t have a cadence in our life right now, what is next? Like, what does tomorrow bring?“Never miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer​​, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.While Kuch said she felt like she was “floating” and looking for her purpose, she has started to “try new things” to combat her identity crisis."[I’m] finding myself as a human outside of just being a mom,” she said. “I’m so confident in the mom piece. I think I’m a great mom, and I love taking care of my daughter, but I feel like I owe it to my daughter to take care of Ally too.“At the end of the day, Kuch said she just wants to set a good example for her daughter. “I feel like I’ve been a badass, and I’ve not cared what people have thought. And now I’m the opposite,” she added. “I wanna do fun new things that I have not done, and I think that’s also something that I really haven’t been selfish over the past 7 years of following my husband around.““I’ve gotten a sense of identity outside of football because I’ve started social media, and I’ve made my own name for myself,” she continued. “But when it comes to being selfish and choosing myself, I also feel like I’ve struggled there too because I’m giving so much of myself to my husband and my daughter, and it’s like, I don’t have anything left for myself. I wanna look forward to something for, selfishly, myself.”

Allison Kuchrevealed she had her own “identity crisis” after her husbandIssac Rochell, former Las Vegas Raiders defensive end, became a free agent in November 2023.

In the latest episode ofSunday Sports Clubon Oct. 20, Kuch, 29, opened up about her personal postpartum journey after she gave birth to her daughter Scottie Bee on Dec. 9, 2023.

“I always thought that Isaac retiring from the NFL — or not being on an NFL team — would make him go through an identity crisis, but I feel like him not being on a team right now is making me have [my own] identity crisis.” she explained. “Postpartum goes hand in hand with that because, as a mom, I understand that so much of my life revolves around my daughter.”

“Even I feel weird talking about this because I don’t want anybody to think that, like, I have negative feelings toward my daughter,” she clarified before opening up about her postpartum journey. “It’s actually, the opposite. I’m so obsessed with my daughter, and I love being a mom, but I feel like that’s all I know right now.”

Allison Kuch on the Sunday Sports Club Podcast.Sunday Sports Club Podcast/YouTube

Sunday Sports Club Podcast/YouTube

She went on to explain that when she was pregnant, she initially planned to give birth in Las Vegas but ended up giving birth in Orange County, Calif. instead — which only added to her postpartum struggles.

“Isaac was with theLas Vegas Raiderslast year, and I was thinking I was gonna give birth in Vegas, and then I didn’t,” she said, noting her husband’s time with the team coming to an end. “So football definitely has a little bit of an impact on my postpartum experience and even more so now because we’re currently in football season.”

Kuch revealed that while Rochell did stay home with her during the first part of her postpartum journey, she regretted their move to Texas during that time, especially while dealing with her"postpartum blues.”

“Something I feel like [with being in] the NFL — not the NFL as an organization, but football and Isaac’s experience playing football — we have never really had a sense of home,” she said.

“I think even now, me being 10 months postpartum and having a little identity crisis, it makes sense because football kinda throws you into a lot of different experiences, a lot of different friend groups [especially since] I have not lived in the same place the past four years,” she added.

For Kuch, her personal identity crisis was rooted in not having a sense of belonging and community because their family moved so many times before.

“I have an identity of being a mom, and I’ve had an identity of being a professional football player’s wife,” she said. “But where I’m kinda struggling is if we don’t have a cadence in our life right now, what is next? Like, what does tomorrow bring?”

Never miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer​​, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.

While Kuch said she felt like she was “floating” and looking for her purpose, she has started to “try new things” to combat her identity crisis.

“[I’m] finding myself as a human outside of just being a mom,” she said. “I’m so confident in the mom piece. I think I’m a great mom, and I love taking care of my daughter, but I feel like I owe it to my daughter to take care of Ally too.”

At the end of the day, Kuch said she just wants to set a good example for her daughter. “I feel like I’ve been a badass, and I’ve not cared what people have thought. And now I’m the opposite,” she added. “I wanna do fun new things that I have not done, and I think that’s also something that I really haven’t been selfish over the past 7 years of following my husband around.”

“I’ve gotten a sense of identity outside of football because I’ve started social media, and I’ve made my own name for myself,” she continued. “But when it comes to being selfish and choosing myself, I also feel like I’ve struggled there too because I’m giving so much of myself to my husband and my daughter, and it’s like, I don’t have anything left for myself. I wanna look forward to something for, selfishly, myself.”

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