Bride and Groom Decide to Have Last Minute Thanksgiving Wedding and Expect Family to Drop Holiday Plans to Attend

Mar. 15, 2025

Bride next to Thanksgiving turkey.Photo:Simple Images/Getty; Lauri Patterson/Getty

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One man’sThankgiving plansjust got a whole lot more stressful.

In a post on the Reddit thread“Wedding Shaming,”a user shared that his sister-in-law invited the entire family to a wedding on short notice …  scheduled the day before Thanksgiving.

They noted that this is typical behavior for this particular family member, writing that she often plans events “at the drop of the hat” and expects others to be there.

“She sent a massive text to our family saying her and her boyfriend are finally getting married,” the poster explained. Then, two days later, the family received a follow-up message informing them that the wedding is scheduled for the day before Thanksgiving and out-of-state.

Stock image of bride and groom exchanging rings at the altar.Getty

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“We were shocked because it was only a 3 months notice,” the Reddit user wrote. “We all already had plane tickets purchased or bookings made for our own family holiday plans. She now expects everyone to drop their plans for her because ‘family.’”

The sister-in-law is now apparently “berating family members” who are opting not to attend.

Commenters were quick to come to the Reddit user’s defense.

Father walking daughter down the aisle.Getty

“Seriously the day before Thanksgiving and wants people to travel!?!? She’s out of her gourd,” read one comment.

“Just because she demands doesn’t mean you have to cave,” read another comment. “I’d just say, ‘Sorry, we already made plans and have bought plane tickets and all and we won’t be changing. If you want everyone there, I suggest you change your date to not a holiday and give people more notice than 3 months so they can save up money and days off for it.’”

This same user also suggested blocking the sister-in-law should she continue to send demands.

Others brought up the fact that three-months notice is simplybad wedding etiquettein today’s busy world.

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“Yeah, that’s at best a save-the-date for people you REALLY want to attend, sent a year ahead of time, before you send actual save-the-date cards!!! I.e., we texted our parents to confirm they were available before putting down deposits, then again to confirm that it was in fact THE date, but then of course sent all the formal stuff too!” one comment read.

source: people.com