John Mayer Says He 'Absolutely' Wants to Get Married as He Jokes About His 'Reliability Kink' (Exclusive)

Mar. 15, 2025

John Mayer’s hopes for his love life are more serious than sexy.

“People don’t think I want to be married. Iabsolutelywant to be married,” the musician, 46, told palKelly Rizzoon Sunday’s episode of her new podcastComfort Food.

“You know the secret, which is that I’m actually fairly well-adjusted. And I so badly want to get married if only for my wife to just know in her heart, like, ‘John will know what to do.’ I just think that level of being relied on is the hottest thing in the world to me. ‘If my husband was here, he would know what to do. Call John. Call my husband.’ You’re a full grown-up when this is your romantic fantasy. You’re a fully fledged grown-up.”

Rizzo, 44, joked back, “Your kink is that you want someone to be like, ‘John’s got a guy.'”

“Reliance kink? Oh my God,” the guitarist agreed. “Reliability kink? YES.”

John Mayer on Kelly Rizzo’s Comfort Food.Courtesy Comfort Food with Kelly Rizzo

Courtesy Comfort Food with Kelly Rizzo

Mayer has spoken about his goals for his personal life before, bothin conversation withAdeleand speaking to close friendAndy Cohenaboutwhat it would take to complete his bucket list.

“That would be — that would complete all of it,” he told Cohen onAndy Cohen Livein 2021. “And I thought about this as recently as last night. ‘Cause my brothers are both married and have children… My dad was 50 when he had me. I think if I work backwards, it’s 50. Forty-eight, 50.”

John Mayer performing in San Francisco in November 2023.Miikka Skaffari/Getty

Miikka Skaffari/Getty

He recently touched on the topic again onhis new SiriusXM radio showLife with John Mayer, joking with a caller that he’s looking for his own “referee.”

“Again, I need someone to tell me to stop these things at some point. I’ve heard people tell me that I shouldn’t get married — I go, ‘Ineeda referee, I need someone to step in and just say, ‘You can’t do that,'” Mayer said.

“I’ll share with you something my therapist said to me. I asked him, ‘Am I going to find somebody in my life? Am I going to end up finding somebody?’ And he said to me, ‘John, it’s inevitable.’ I loved that word — ‘inevitable.’ Because it means I have nothing to do with whether I do or not. And I believe in it. And maybe someone can glean something from that, if they’re alone this holiday season… The stakes just get really high when you get older.”

Kelly Rizzo and John Mayer on Comfort Food.Courtesy Comfort Food with Kelly Rizzo

Rizzo — the widow of actor and comedianBob Saget, who died suddenly at 65 in January 2022 — launched her podcast in November and iscurrently working on a cookbook. Mayer and Saget had been friends for years, from grabbing dinner in Los Angeles together to teaming up for charity events. Saget traveled to Brazil with the musician forMayer’s 40th birthday bashin 2017, while Mayersang at Saget’s 2018 weddingto Rizzo.

On Sunday’s episode, releasing shortly before the second anniversary of Saget’s death, Mayer and Rizzo reminiscence about processing the loss, how they grieved together, and their experiences in the weeks that followed, including Mayer and comedian Jeff Rosspicking up Saget’s abandoned car at the airport.

“John did a lot for me that first week and the last two years that really … and I know this is going to sound dramatic, but it’s true and he’s very humble about this — but he really did save my life physically that week. I was really not well and he stepped up anddid things for me that nobody else could have donethat literally saved my life,” Rizzo told PEOPLE recently.

“I went back through the two years of text messages that we had, especially during that first month. We relived some of the text messages we sent each other [on the podcast].”

Kelly Rizzo’s Comfort Food.Courtesy Comfort Food with Kelly Rizzo

Mayer appears on the latest episode of Kelly Rizzo’sComfort Food, dropping Sunday on all major podcasting platforms, includingSpotifyandApple.

source: people.com