Luann de Lesseps Dishes on Dating: 40-Year-Olds Are 'Up into My Stuff,' 60 Somethings Have Bedroom 'Challenges'

Mar. 15, 2025

Luann de Lessepsknows what she is looking for when it comes to love.

On Wednesday’s episode ofTamron Hall, theReal Housewives of New York Cityalum, 58, opened up about her search for a man.

“That’s part of ‘life is a cabaret’ — that’s part of my story is we write it ourselves. And I write down what I want to manifest,” she explained. “What I want to manifest is a true partner.”

For Lesseps, a good partner is someone who is “age appropriate [and] who’s got a career.”

Luann de Lesseps at BravoCon 2023 from Caesars Forum in Las Vegas, NV on Saturday, November 4, 2023.Rich Polk/Bravo via Getty

Rich Polk/Bravo via Getty

When asked what she considers age appropriate, she candidly shared, “Age appropriate for me is…well I’ll tell you something: so right now all the 40-year-olds, the 30-40-year-olds, are up into my stuff, if I can say that. The 50-year-olds are like ‘Oh damn, I’m 50. I need a 20-year-old.’ The 60-year-olds are a little challenged, you know what I mean, down in that department. And the 70-year-olds just want to have a good time all day long.”

The reality star has her sights on a younger man, saying, “So it’s really from the 40’s…you know, late 30s, 40s, for me, is my sweet spot… But listen, a young 50-year-old… but the problem with 50-year-olds is they usually want younger women because they have that ‘midlife crisis.’”

De Lesseps called herself “kind of a cougar,” adding, “I grew up with six brothers and sisters and four older brothers, so I’m very comfortable with men. I love men, I love flirting.”

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However, the Countess shut down the notion that she would date multiple men at the same time.

“No, I’m not that kind of girl… I love men and I like to date and I like to flirt and I think there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m living my best life in my 50s, that’s all I’ve got to say,” she shared.

Last month,Real Housewives Ultimate Girls Trip: RHONY Legacystar told PEOPLE that she washoping to find loveand settle down in 2024.

“I’m having the best time right now being single. But 2024, I’m manifesting to be my year of love because I’m a hopeless romantic,” she said at the time.“Three time’s the charm!”

Bravo viewers have seen thehighs and lowsof de Lesseps' love life over the years.

WhenRHONYpremiered in March 2008, she was married to first husbandCount Alexandre de Lesseps, with whom she shares two children: daughter Victoria, 29, and son Noel, 27. But the Count filed for divorce in 2009 after 16 years of marriage, leaving de Lesseps “devastated.”

“I knew that we were kind of separating, but I was hoping that things were going to work out,” she told PEOPLE at the time, adding that she always assumed she would be “married forever.”

She went on to find love withJacques Azoulay, who appeared with her onRHONY, before theirsplit in 2013. She then wedTom D’Agostinoin 2016; however, they divorced eight months later.

From then on, there was a series of short-lived romances, including one withher agent, Richard Super. And now, de Lesseps finds herself wanting something more serious. “It’s time,” she told PEOPLE. “I think I’ve kissed enough frogs, don’t you?”

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source: people.com