Regina King Says She Sometimes Still Feels 'Guilt' After Son's Death: 'The Sadness Will Never Go Away'

Mar. 15, 2025

Regina Kingis opening up about her grief journey — and her sonIan Alexander Jr.’s legacy — two years after his death.

In a sit-down interview withRobin Roberts, which aired in full Thursday onGood Morning America, theShirleystar admitted that “sometimes a lot of guilt comes over” her, to this day.

“When a parent loses a child, you still wonder, ‘What could I have done so that wouldn’t have happened?’ " said King, 53.

Since his death, King has had “the time to just sit with Ian’s choice” — and now, “I respect and understand that he didn’t want to be here anymore. And that’s a hard thing for other people to receive, because they did not live our experience, did not live Ian’s journey,” she told Roberts, 63.

“It’simportant to me to honor Ianthe totality of who he is — I speak about him in the present, because he is always with me. And the joy and happiness that he gave all of us,” she also said.

Speaking specifically aboutdepression, theOscarwinner said, “People expect it to look a certain way, and they expect it to look heavy,” but noted that isn’t always the case.

Regina King and her son Ian.Gregg DeGuire/WireImage

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Regardless, King told Roberts that after her son’s death, she “was so angry with God” at first and asked, “Why would that weight be given to Ian?”

“Of all the things that we hadgone through with therapy, psychiatrists and programs, and Ian was like, ‘I’m tired of talking, Mom,’ " she said.

Regina King and son Ian Alexander Jr. at the American Music Awards in Los Angeles on Nov. 24, 2019.Kevin Mazur/Getty

TheIf Beale Street Could Talkstar went on to say that “being Ian’s mom” is her “favorite thing about” herself — and she “can’t say that with a smile, with tears, with all of the emotion that comes with that” if she doesn’t “respect the journey.”

Of the moments where she still feels her son’s physical presence, King said, “Sometimes it’ll trigger laughter — most times, as of recent, it triggers a smile. But sometimes his absence is really loud.”

Regina King onGood Morning AmericaMarch 14, 2024.ABC News

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King said she is “a different person now” than she was before Ian’s death, and that she understands now that “grief is a journey” and is “love that has no place to go.”

“I know thatI share this grief with everyone, but no one else is Ian’s mom. Only me. And so it’s mine, and the sadness will never go away. It’ll always be with me,” she continued later in the interview.

The actress added, “And I think I saw somewhere, ‘The sadness is a reminder of how much he means to me,’ you know? Happy sorrow.”

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source: people.com