Selena Gomez Asks Mariska Hargitay for Parenting Advice as 'Someone Who Desires to Be a Mother'

Mar. 15, 2025

Selena Gomez (left); Mariska Hargitay.Photo:Amy Sussman/Getty; John Lamparski/Getty

Amy Sussman/Getty; John Lamparski/Getty

Selena Gomezis asking for some parenting advice from her friend,Mariska Hargitay.

Speaking to theLaw & Order: SVUactress, 60, for an interview withInterviewmagazine, the “Single Soon” singer and actress, 32, asked if she could pose a more personal question about becoming a mother “as someone who desires to be a mother.”

“How does balancing things — because I remember I went to go pick up your kids from school one day, and I loved that. That felt so normal and real. How do you balance that?” Gomez asked. “Because one day I hope to do that.”

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Peter Hermann (left) and Mariska Hargitay (right) with their three children.Jamie McCarthy/Getty Images

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Hargitay shares her three kids —August, 17, Amaya, 12, and Andrew, 12— with husbandPeter Hermann.

“And you will. For all working moms, it’s hard. There’s been so many times where I’m torn or frustrated because in our jobs, you can’t say, ‘Guys, I’m not coming in today,’ " Hargitay responded. “But I’ve integrated them here. My kids come to work with me.”

“Are there things I miss? Yeah. The flip side is that my kids are really proud of me. I talk to them a lot about, what kind of life do you want, and who do you want to be, and how do you want to spend your time? And what do you want to give back and who do you want to affect and what do you want to create?”

Hargitay went on to say that while she’s missed some things, and there are days where her nanny had to do “a little extra,” she’s happy with the balance she’s found.

“But I brought August to work with me every day for the first year. And you can, too. It’s doable,” Hargitay told Gomez. “I am happier and living a fuller life, and they feel that and see that. And when I’m with them, I’m with them.”

Earlier this month, Gomez shared withVanity Fairfor the outlet’s October issue that she’sunable to carry her own children.

Gomez has previously spoken about dealing withcomplications from lupus, which she wasdiagnosed within 2015. She also revealed her bipolar diagnosis in April 2020 during an episode ofMiley Cyrus' Instagram Live showBright Minded.

“[But] I’m in a much better place with that,” she continued. “I find it a blessing that there are wonderful people willing to do surrogacy or adoption, which are both huge possibilities for me.”

source: people.com